Uncontrolled anger accentuates problems and clouds judgment, distorts reality and inflames emotions, deepens resentment and hinders peaceful problem-solving, provides the devil an opportunity to divide people. Spirit-controlled elders enjoy healthy group relationships, provide Christ-like leadership for God’s flock, promote calmness and gentle talk, promote healing words and wise speech.
This kind of behavior ends up manipulating fellow elders, demeans one’s character, creates distrust among the elders, ruins relationships, gives a foothold to Satan and opens one up to further deceit.
How would you deal with the problem of an out-of-control elder?
What criterion would you use in determining how much of what is discussed in an elders meeting you might share with you wife?
Case study: In monitoring/soliciting feedback from the people on an issue, two elders hear completely different perspectives. What are some factors that contribute to this? How can the elder’s effectively work through situations like this?
Ask the other elders to give you honest feedback, whether you are a manipulator, trustworthy with confidential information or hot-tempered.
Make a list of three Proverbs covered in this session that particularly apply to areas that you want to improve. Commit them to memory.