Same-Sex Attraction – Pastoral 2

Series: Same-Sex Attraction - Pastoral
Presenter: Ben Mathew

The elders need to be prepared to teach and counsel concerning same-sex attraction and relationships. This four part series gives insights into the struggle of homosexuality, and what we can say to and how we should treat those struggling with this issue in their lives.



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Remember It

Contemplate these questions, then click on each question to see the answer.
1. What are the three phases of the developmental reality for those who struggle with same-sex attraction?
The dilemma, the development, the decision.
2. What is the one thing the speaker says the mainstream gay and lesbian community has right?
It communicates to those struggling with same-sex attraction that they are accepted and loved.
3. What is wrong with saying, “Homosexuality is sin and you need to just stop it?”
We all struggle with different sins, and we know that it is not that simple to just stop. Having this attitude will shame the individual struggling and will eventually drive them to seek help or acceptance elsewhere.

Discuss It

  1. What specific things need to change in the Christian Sexual Identity Script in order to help those who struggle with same-sex attraction?
  2. What are some practical ways you can show an individual struggling with same-sex attraction that they are loved and accepted, while not accepting their sinful actions?

Apply It

  1. Talk with a person you know that is self-identified as gay or lesbian. Ask them how he or she as a Christian feels about their situation or struggle. Ask them how they want to be treated by other Christians.
  2. Make a list of ways you can love a person who is self-identified as gay or lesbian? How does this list differ than loving a person who is not self-identified in that way? What is different?