Same-Sex Attraction – Pastoral 1

Series: Same-Sex Attraction
Presenter: Ben Mathew

The elders need to be prepared to teach and counsel concerning same-sex attraction and relationships. This four part series gives insights into the struggle of homosexuality, and what we can say to and how we should treat those struggling with this issue in their lives.



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Remember It

Contemplate these questions, then click on each question to see the answer.
1. To what type of individuals is the speaker referring when he speaks of those who struggle with same-sex attraction?
He is referring to those who are Christians, but struggle with same-sex attractions. They know the truth and therefore know that their feelings are not in keeping with biblical commands.
2. The speaker uses a phrase “convicted civility.” What does this mean?
Taken from Richard Mouw and Martin Marty, this means that we need to know the truth and have conviction, but we need to present the truth in a civil way.
3. What is the ultimate conflict that those who struggle with same-sex attraction face?
Reconciling the deep faith they have in Christ and the strong feelings of same-sex attraction.

Discuss It

  1. In your own words, what is the biblical definition of marriage and of sexuality? Use specific Scriptures to support your definition.
  2. The speaker says we not only have the Truth of Christ, but we also have the Heart of Christ. How does this concept correlate with the concept of convicted civility?

Apply It

  1. Imagine yourself as having same-sex urges. How would you feel about talking to someone about it? Who would you talk to? What would you fear? How do you think Christians would treat you? Write this down to force yourself to think about this through their eyes.

Digging Deeper

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