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Series: Premarriage and Weddings
Presenter: Bob Deffinbaugh

This series of message provide teaching and insights into how an elder can approach pre-marital counseling and performing weddings. Part 3 of 3.



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Remember It

Contemplate these questions, then click on each question to see the answer.
1. What are some of the differences that couples will need to deal with that are mentioned by the speaker?
Where to go to church, denominational or theological differences, personal preferences, convictions, children – how many and when to have them, as well as how to discipline and train them.
2. How does the speaker define submission? How is Abigail in 1 Samuel 15 an example of this?
“Submission is subordinating your interests to those of the one to whom you are submitting.” Although she went against her husband’s wishes in going to speak to King David, she did it out of submission, risking her life in the interest of saving her husband’s life.
3. What is the most important thing you as the officiant can do at a wedding?
Preach the Gospel, using the fact that marriage is a picture of Christ’s love for the Church.

Discuss It

  1. The speaker recommends that Matthew 18 and church discipline be discussed with the couple in light of how it applies to marriage. What reasons can you give for why this is so important?
  2. What is the speaker’s reasoning for not taking any payment for performing weddings? Do you agree or disagree? Why?
  3. Are there any ways that you can think of to make a wedding more biblical? What suggestions could you give a couple who has asked you to perform the ceremony for them?

Apply It

  1. Find out what your church’s policy is about accepting money for performing weddings.

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